I did it at 66.  At an age when many baby boomers are retiring to travel, play golf or move to a warmer climate, I made a decision to do something new with my life.  I wanted to begin a new chapter in the book of my life that hadn’t been revised in a while.


For over three decades of my life (can’t believe I can say “decades”!), I’ve been the “go to” friend, family member or co-worker that women were drawn to or told about when they needed a resolve.   Some felt stuck where they were, some had a problem they didn’t know how to solve and most wanted to change their life in some way and needed clarity and support. 


I can’t tell you how many times women have told me how motivational and inspirational it is to talk with me.  I’ve spoken with women of all ages, in numerous professional occupations, facing a variety of issues, challenges and difficulties.


I realized in my 30's that I seemed to have a natural skill set to be able to help.  The fact that I’ve been a personal growth junkie didn’t hurt either.


I’ve done hundreds of hours of workshops and retreats and I have an awesome collection of cassette tape sets that I bought from Nightingale-Conant.  (Yes, cassette tapes, not DVDs).  


I have had some of the best teachers in the world:  Brian Tracy, Anthony Robbins, Earl Nightingale, Dr. Robert R. Schueller, Jay Abraham and so many more.  I’ve read tons of self-help books written by these experts along with many others such as Mike Robbins, Dorie Clark, Jen Sincero to name a few.  I’m a self-proclaimed lifelong learner.  There are few things I love more than learning something new to use for myself and to share with others to help women “come into their own” and achieve their goals.


The words above -- “Come into their own” -- mean the world to me.  After my divorce in 1980 I was shattered.  I had been criticized constantly every day for seven years and demeaned as a woman. 


I had asked for the divorce from my husband of seven years because I just couldn’t take it anymore.  *Joe criticized EVERYTHING I did from how I looked, what I was wearing (“You’re not going to wear THAT, are you?”) and how I cleaned the house.  He even criticized how I was in our sexual life.  He left no stone unturned when telling me what was wrong with me.


He was never a partner like a girl in her teens reads and dreams of.  My dream was that our marriage would be a true partnership.  It wasn’t. 


My self-esteem (I never even knew what it was called back then) was lower than dirt.  To this day when my inner critic tells me something that sounds like what Joe would say) I realize it’s me saying it.  My coach said it’s like me abusing myself.  Right on!  Enough of that!!  Taming your inner critic takes work but it CAN be done.  I’ve also started affirming “My inner critic is lying to me.” 


What was good about the marriage and the divorce?  It gave me a perfectly clear picture of the type of man I might marry in the future (if I wanted to remarry) and it taught me the signs to look for if a man is an emotional abuser.


During all this time I worked in the legal field first as a word processer and then as a word processing supervisor.  I hated it but did it on and off since I was in college.  In 2011, when I realized I didn’t have to do that anymore, I felt as if I had been let out of prison.


I did a little bit of consulting work for a professional speaker at her home around 1993.  As I was speaking I was walking around.  She asked me if I ever thought of becoming a professional speaker.  I did not know about the field and she explained.  She said I had the skills to be one. 


That was the beginning of one of the "reinventions" I have experienced in my life.  I joined the local chapter of the National Speakers Association, learned a lot about speaking professionally and made my entry into into public speaking.  Boy, was I anxious and nervous! 


I worked for my own company as a part-time motivational speaker for about 6-1/2 years speaking to adult professionals about maximizing productivity, increasing motivation and taking control of their time.  I ended up speaking to groups in about 20 or so different industries from plumbing contractors to legal administrators to tech employees.


I enjoyed it but never quite felt like it was me at that time.  So, in 1999 I gave it up.  


During that time, I was attending women’s networking meetings.  At one meeting I met a young woman (I’ll call her Anne).  Little did I know that I was going to help her make a decision she didn’t know she needed to make. 


Anne and I hit it off so we decided to go for coffee after the meeting to talk some more.  She told me she was a very successful financial planner who had reached the top of her profession.  I asked her if she enjoyed being a financial planner and her face suddenly looked sad. 


She said it was the profession her parents had chosen for her.  She had siblings who were also professionals in different occupations.  It seemed as if her parents were really hot on Anne becoming a financial planner. 


Between her body language, listening and my intuition I realized this woman was trapped and stuck in a time warp.


“Why are you a financial planner when you don’t enjoy it?” I asked.


She said she didn’t want to make her parents unhappy and she was making so much money she was afraid to make a change.  I asked her if she was able to make a change what it was that she had in mind as a different profession.  Boy, she knew the answer to that question immediately.  Her face lit up like a Christmas tree!


Anne said “I really want to be an interior designer and have my own shop.  I absolutely love decorating and have been told I really have a sense of style.  That is my dream job.  I would be so happy if I could do that.” 


“What stands in your way of doing that right now?” I asked.  She said her parents would be so upset, it would impact the family and she was afraid to leave a successful career behind. 


“Why would your parents be upset with you if you weren’t a financial planner?”  I inquired.  Anne told me that her parents always wanted her to be a financial planner, so that’s what she studied and got into after college.  She also said that she was afraid that it might cause a problem with her parents and she didn’t want a confrontation.


“What’s more important to you at the age of 32.  Doing what your parents want you to do or being happy doing your dream job?”  She thought about it a long time and said being happy was really important to her.  She hated what she was doing.  I asked her “So, if that’s what you REALLY want, what would it take to do it?”


“As I said I’m really successful and have put away a lot of money.  I would have to go to school for interior design.” 


“Would that make you happy?”.  Her face lit up again and she said “Oh yes.  That is my dream”.


 Then she surprised me and excused herself to make a phone call.  When she got back, she said “I decided and did it.  I told my mom that I was going to quit financial planning and go to interior design school.  My mom was very upset and she asked me what got into me.  Why I was making a rash decision.”


She told her mom that she met a woman, had a conversation and came to the realization that she wanted to live her dream and become an interior designer.  I remember distinctly what she said next.  “My mom said, 'Who IS this woman?'” 


We talked more about handling her mother being upset and living her dream.  I recommended that she remember what was the most important to her when she saw her parents.  She said she would and we parted ways.


That was one of the most rewarding conversations I’ve had in my life.  And it was with a complete stranger!  She didn’t even know that deep down she had a life-changing decision to make!  Oddly enough Anne and I did not exchange phone numbers that night. 


I look at it as synchronicity.  We were meant to cross paths about 30 years ago so I could help her. 


Before I typed this story up to share with you I searched the internet for Anne N. (I know her last name but don’t want to use it without permission) but could not find her.  I don’t know if she’s still alive, married, has kids, what she would look like now, what happened with her interior design dream or anything about her.  Who knows?  Maybe she’ll read this bio that I’ve written for you and contact me.  I would love to connect with her.


Things like this happen with me – synchronicity -- more times than I can count. I used to talk with women a lot in my younger years. 


Using my skills to help women move forward started again about a year ago because of my current husband, Michael.  Michael is a very social person and as a landscaper at a local hospital he gets to talk with his a lot of his co-workers and other people at the hospital.  He’s the type of man that women tell their problems to.  They must sense that he isn't judgmental and can be trusted.  He listens to a woman’s problems and then he tells them about me.  He tells them that maybe his wife can help.  He knows I love to do that.


After a conversation with one of my husband’s co-workers where we discussed “what she didn’t know she didn’t know” and was diminishing herself, I hung up the phone and had a light bulb moment.  I LOVE doing this I thought.  Helping women resolve and work through issues and “come into their own”.  What would this be called? 


I didn’t want to become a therapist and didn’t feel like that was what I was doing—that’s not what I do.  Then I happened across information about a profession called coaching.  Wow!  It hit me like a rock!  That’s my new chapter in my life.


While there are coaches who choose not to get certified, I decided to invest the time and money to get certified.  I searched for a coaching school that felt right to me.  I found Universal Coach Institute and the rest is history.  I have now earned five different certifications:


  • Certified Goal Setting Coach
  • Certified Mindset Coach
  • Certified Motivation Coach
  • Certified Solution-Focused Coach
  • Certified Life Coach


Why so many certifications you might ask?  Am I an overachiever?  Well, kind of.  But my reason for studying in these specific areas is because I want my skills to be as well-rounded as possible.  This will help to best serve the needs of my coaching clients. 


I'm now known as "THE GOAL CRUSHER COACH".  For a woman to become a Goal Crusher takes work – I call it the goal achievement journey.  You will need to work on mindset, motivation, problem solving, managing change, and overall dealing with life issues.  I can definitely help in these areas and more.  That’s also why these certifications are important to me.


Now that I live on a mountain in Western North Carolina on a couple of acres, and no longer socialize in a workplace, I don’t meet that many women.


I attend networking meetings but am really shy about approaching women I don’t know.  A lot of times I get mislabeled an extrovert because I’m very animated when I talk.  Truth is, I’m really an introvert.  Someone who keeps to herself and enjoys deep, soulful conversations—that’s who I am.


That’s just of the reasons coaching is such a fit for me. 

My business agent offered me an opportunity to co-author a business book with Brian Tracy.  You may have heard of Brian.  He’s a world-renowned success coach and motivational speaker.  The book, Ready, Set, Go! became a best seller.  I was also one of the featured authors in a community book project—Success is Yours.  (You can download a FREE copy on this website).  It has 70 motivational stories from business experts.  It's designed to inspire, motivate and inform and it really accomplishes that.


So, here I am.  A new coach who helps women on personal development skills such as mastering your mindset and managing change so they can crush their personal and business goals.  You can't crush your goals without personal growth work.  I know that from personal experience. 


My mission is to empower, support and inspire business women to become the best version of themselves.  My on-going goal is to work with professional women to crush their business goals and harness the power of their mind.  This is what I call developing your "exponential potential".


When I help women, and they are happy, fulfilled and successful, and I am part of what helped them move forward, I feel wonderful, happy and fulfilled as well.  Personal satisfaction from what I do is what makes coaching ideal for me.


Now I'm in the process of working to build my coaching practice to coach professional women who are ready -- or close to ready -- to do great things in life.  I work with women 1 on 1 or in groups.  It's so exciting to love what I do!



*Joe is not my first husband’s real name.  I changed his name for privacy reasons.